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October 05 2017



New concept: Lets support all trans people and not just the ones we find attractive.


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October 04 2017



just neurodivergent things: not being able to tell if your feelings for people are platonic or romantic or if you’re just lonely.

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22 Common Mistakes by Non-Native Speakers


I’ve compiled a short list of some very common and sometimes embarrassing mistakes made by non-native speakers of Spanish that are almost always a clue that the person doing this is not fluent or wholly proficient in Spanish.

This isn’t a complete list, it’s things that I’ve thought of as very common. So if I’ve missed any of your most embarrassing mistakes or you have some other examples, send them in!

1. Overusing a personal pronoun

In some cases, the use of a personal pronoun (yo, tú, nosotros) is not necessary. In Spanish, most verbs have a specific conjugation that applies to a certain subject that are unique… so there’s less of a reason to add a pronoun. When you do, you sound overly emphatic.

hablo = I speak

yo hablo = the one who is speaking is me

This can be a useful thing to know if you’re answering questions like “Who did ___?” but in everyday speech if you go through a routine like: yo hago la cama, yo me ducho, yo como el desayuno and so on sounds incredibly tiresome to a native speaker because you’re putting unneeded emphasis on it.

Where emphasis is better served is when the subject is doubtful - 3rd person singular and plural.

Because if “he” is conjugated like “she”, and “they” could be anyone, it’s sometimes useful to write the pronoun él or ella or name them to avoid confusion.

This is especially useful in the subjunctive where 3rd person singular looks like yo.

2. Capitalizing nationalities

In English, we write English. We write American as American, and Chinese as Chinese.

In Spanish, it’s not like that. 

inglés / inglesa = English

español / española = Spanish

francés / francesa = French

griego/a = Greek

ruso/a = Russian

italiano/a = Italian

japonés / japonesa = Japanese

chino/a = Chinese

The only reason you would capitalize someone’s nationality or ethnicity would be if it were a tribe like los Iroquois or if it was their nickname/title like la Chinita [a historical woman]

3. Ser and Estar

Always a problem.

Ser is used with description, qualities, telling time, passive voice, what something is made of, what something is used for, set personality traits, and a few others.

Estar is used for location, temporary conditions (sick, tired, cloudy etc.), a person’s mood and NOT their personality, the progressive, and a few others.

The difference is best learned by practice and repeated example.

4. Ser and Haber

While ser is used for “to be”, one of the main functions of haber is “to be present/existing” which is typically hay but may be hubo/había/habrá etc. depending on the tense.

Son sillas = They are chairs

Hay sillas = There are chairs

When it’s a question of, “What is it?” you use ser.

When it’s a question of, “Does it exist?” use haber.

5. Addressing all letters with Querido/a for “dear”

In English, we just have “dear”. In Spanish there are two ways to say it.

Querido/a comes from querer which means “to love”. So querido/a means “dear” as in “person I care about” or sometimes “beloved”.

Generally, estimado/a is what you want to use when it’s someone above your station like a boss or a teacher, because “esteemed” is giving them respect and is more formal.

The real difference is if you’re on a first name basis, querido/a is fine.

If you’re not, or if you’re being formal, or it’s a stranger, estimado/a is what you want to use.

If you’re comfortable enough to begin a letter with, “Hey!” or “Yo!” then you can use querido/a but it can be seen as disrespectful or extremely buddy-buddy friendly to use querido/a instead of estimado/a in some contexts.

6. The use of americano/a

While americano/a is very commonly used for “American”, there are places where it’s frowned upon when you mean “from the United States”.

Because, while americano/a means “American” it refers to North AND/OR South America. Canada is “American”, Brazil is “American”, Haiti is “American”, Argentina is “American”.

So you might see: España tuvo colonias americanas / “Spain had American colonies”.

When you mean “from/pertaining to the U.S.”, it’s better to use estadounidense which means “from Los Estados Unidos” just to avoid accidentally being ethnocentric.

7. “I’m hot” =/= estoy caliente & “I’m cold” =/= estoy frío/a

Tengo calor. = I am hot. 

Estoy caliente. = I am aroused.

Tengo frío. = I am cold.

Estoy frío/a. = I am distant, not friendly, frigid, or a cold fish.

[Note: estoy frío/a can also be used in the sense of “my body is colder than average”; generally the estar kind of implies “a body” and not a person… so you could say el muerto está frío which would mean “the dead man is cold” which is “to the touch”. Worse than this would be soy frío/a which is more obviously “I am frigid and dislike people”.]

8. Por and Para

The Differences between por and para

9. Preterite vs. Imperfect

Should I use Preterite or Imperfect?

10. Position and Directionality - debajo vs. abajoatrás vs. detrásante vs. antes etc.

Generally, de- implies that something is in a particular position. And generally, a- implies that there is motion.

The trick to these words is if you are describing something’s static position, versus a state of movement.

debajo = underneath

abajo = downward

detrás = behind

atrás = moving behind [<<¡Atrás!>> as an interjection is, “Stand back!”]

tras = after / pursuing / chasing / following

ante = (to stand) before [e.g. ante la Corte "before the Court"; ante la Corona “before the Crown”]

antes = before (something happens) / just in front

11. Use of excitado/a

excitado/a = aroused sexually

emocionado/a = excited / filled with emotions of anticipation and maybe nervousness

12. Use of capable

capar = to neuter / to castrate

capable = able to be castrated

capaz = capable / having ability

13. Darse cuenta vs. Realizar

Both translate as “to realize” but in different senses.

Using darse cuenta is saying “to realize” as in “to have a revelation” or “to come to understand something” and is usually what you want.

Using realizar is saying “to make a reality” or “to finalize”. This is used primarily with projects or when making dreams a reality. It’s better translated as “to carry out” or “to finish”.

14. Preguntar vs. Pedir

Both mean “to ask” but not in the same way.

To ask a question is usually hacer una pregunta or preguntar. When you use preguntar you’re saying “to question (someone)” or “to ask about something of which you don’t know”. Hacer una pregunta is more often “to ask (someone) a question”.

Pedir on the other hand is “to ask for (something)”. It may be easier to think of it as “to request”. It’s most often associated with asking forgiveness [pedir disculpas], making demands, and especially in the sense of “ordering” at a restaurant.

15. Capitalizing everything in a sequence/title

Spanish typically capitalizes only the first letter of a sentence or sequence or title. English takes after German in the way of capitalizing every noun but not the prepositions or particle. Just be aware that this does not apply for proper names within the title.

So for instance…

Cien años de soledad = One Hundred Years of Solitude

Alicia en el país de las maravillas = Alice in Wonderland

Lo que el viento se llevó = Gone with the Wind

La vuelta al mundo en ochenta días = Around the World in 80 Days

El mago de Oz = The Wizard of Oz

16. Overuse of para with various verbs

Most commonly, this mistake happens with esperar "to wait for" and buscar “to look for”. 

People commonly write buscar para or esperar para, but because the “for” is already implied, there’s no need to add para.

Busco mi libro. = I’m looking for my book.

Busco novio. = I’m looking for a boyfriend.

Busco a ella. - I’m looking for her.

Estoy esperando el autobús. = I’m waiting for the bus.

Estoy esperando a ella. - I’m waiting for her.

17. Moverse vs. Mudarse

moverse = to move physically

mudarse = to move places of residence

*Note: mudar by itself means “to mutate” or “to molt” which is different from both of these meanings

18. Older/Younger vs. Elder/Younger

This is a problem that exists because English, but in Spanish there’s a clear distinction between both sets of words.

viejo/a / joven = old / young as in age

mayor / menor = elder / younger as in sequence of age

Mi hermana es mucho más mayor que yo. - My sister is much older than me. [“My sister is my senior in age because she was born first”]

Mi hermana es mucho más vieja que yo. - My sister is more of an old woman than me. [“My sister is a senior citizen”]

*Note: There’s a bit more leeway with joven and menor… the general distinction is that joven implies “youth”, but menor means “younger than” which implies a sequence.

19. Using en with days of the week / months of the year

Generally, with days of the week or months of the year, people are more likely to say: “On Tuesday” and write en martes

In Spanish, that’s not how it’s done. It’s more common to use el to imply a due date or when something occurs.

La tarea es para el lunes. - The homework is due Monday.

Hagan la tarea para el viernes. - Do the homework by Friday


Mi cumpleaños es en febrero. = My birthday is in February.

Mi cumpleaños es el diez de febrero. = My birthday is February 10th.

20. Historia vs. Cuento

la historia = a long story / history (the subject)

el cuento = a short story [related to contar “to tell”]

21. Words that end in -a that are masculine, words that end in -o that are feminine

This is mastered by repetition. Sometimes it’s because they’re loanwords (especially from Greek)

  • el día [Indo-European and not Greek] = day
  • el poema [Greek] = poem
  • el clima [Greek] = climate
  • el aroma [Greek] = smell / aroma
  • el programa [Greek] = program

Other times they’re abbreviations

  • la radio(grafía) = radio / radiography
  • la moto(cicleta) = motorcycle
  • la bici(cleta) = bicycle
  • la tele(visión) = television

You just have to do your best to learn them as you go.


la radio = radio [the machine or a radio program]

el radio = radius [geometry]

22. Reflexives with me, te and nos

When a reflexive is listed, it’s often in the “unconjugated” infinitive + reflexive se.

So for instance, irse “to leave” is listed as irse in the dictionary. When it’s conjugated however, the reflexive must adhere to the subject.

So when it's yo it turns to me and so on:

Tengo que irme. = I have to leave.

Tienes que irte. = You need to leave.

Ella tiene que irse. = She needs to leave.

Ellos tienen que irse. = They need to leave.

Tenemos que irnos. = We need to leave.

*Note: This applies to all reflexives and in all tenses; me fui, te fuiste, se fueme ibate ibasse iba; me vaya, te vayas, se vaya and so on.

The se is only used for 3rd person, singular or plural.



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Who's Disabled?



People sometimes ask, “Is it okay for me to say I’m disabled?” What do they mean? A variety of things, I think:

• They have some condition that’s in the ballpark of disability, but they have struggled personally over whether they themselves want to identify as disabled.

• They view themselves as disabled in some way, but worry that other disabled people won’t accept that, or that they will be accused of “appropriating” disability identity and culture.

• They think that if they refer to themselves as “disabled”, their friends and families will be sad or disapprove, or worse … believe they are faking in order to gain some kind of advantage or benefit.

• They are focused on one of the more narrow, specific definitions of “disabled,” such as qualifying for Social Security Disability, being entitled to a “handicapped parking” permit, or being covered under the Americans with Disabilities Act.

• They take the word “disabled” very literally, to mean unable to do anything. From this point of view it can seem both inaccurate, (everybody can do SOMETHING), and discouraging … as if calling yourself disabled is not only descriptive, but predictive.

I’ve thought about it a lot, and here is the definition of disability that makes the most sense to me. It’s a personal definition, not a legal or bureaucratic one:

If you have a physical or mental condition that you have to think about and plan around every day, then you are disabled.

This definition encompasses any physical, mental, cognitive, and sensory impairments. I personally don’t include temporary impairments, impairments that are seamlessly adapted, (like glasses for nearsightedness), or ordinary variations in personality, talent, and physical makeup.

Any thoughts?

What do folks think?



i hate that fucking “european here just saying if another european says the word race thats the easiest way to tell theyre a racist. we dont think about race here unlike the crazy americans who are obsessed with race” post so much cause like.

europeans literally invented the entire fucking modern concept of race and racism. yall. what the fuck. why are you trying to claim you have nothing to do with this


Surviving Halloween with Psychosis






- The picture test: If you can’t tell if something is a hallucination or not, take a photo! If it shows up in the picture then you have a keepsake of that crazy creepy Halloween decoration. If not it’s a hallucination (or a vampire. No, i’m kidding it’s a hallucination.)

- Is some kid in mask causing paranoia? Ask them where they got their costume. Did they make it? How did they get the idea? Focusing on the person inside of the costume will help you remember that it’s just a person!

- Avoid haunted houses, haunted hayrides, ect. Actors will not stop scaring unless it’s an emergency, and I’ve yet to find a place that teaches actors how to deal with anything other than physical injuries. (I once met a haunted house actor who said causing a panic attack meant he was “doing his job right.”)

- There’s no shame in asking friends and relatives to avoid sending jump scare videos or anything else that could cause paranoia.

Here are some tips on how to tell if a video is a screamer.

- (from freeasthepaperburns) Boggart it! If something is making you upset, make it silly. dance with the shadows, sing to the creepies, I bet if make a fish face at the scary face it’ll be a little less scary. I know this is harder than it sounds, but I’ve gotten better at it over the time, and find it helps!

Stay safe babes!


For any darlings who may need this! Stay safe sweeties! - Mod Naga

Boggart it! Yesss I love this advice!

1. Share this to help people with psychosis.

2. For everyone with anxiety etc, look in the post above for a link to “how to tell if a video is a screamer” that link is helpful to EVERYONE.

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Offhand: Introduction comics (done with my non-dominant hand)

A lot of people have been really curious about my off-handed artistic progression, so we’re collecting it as a book! We just launched the kickstarter for Offhand, a chronological collection of my work done between 2012-2017 with my left (non-dominant) hand! There’s some art from this blog and a lot more art and comics that’ve never been shared online. I’ve been working really hard on this book and hope people enjoy it. :D

Please check it out! 👋✨

October 02 2017




If someone looks uncomfortable when you hug them, please stop hugging them.

If someone shuffles away when you stand beside them, don’t move closer to them again.

If someone shrugs your hand off their shoulder, don’t fucking put your hand back on.

Don’t be an asshole.
If someone says they don’t like to be touched, I don’t care how much it “offends” you. Stop touching them.


Even if they’re family. Especially if they’re kids.

October 01 2017




Every afab person who starts screaming “TRANS MEN/NB PEOPLE ARE HURT BY TERFS TOO” every time discussion of radfems comes up owes me 10 USD to be deposited in my PayPal immediately.

Let me elaborate: intentional misgendering and insistence that afab trans folks are really just misguided women is hurtful rhetoric. It’s bad and needs to be shut down. But the harassment, outing, and physical attacks trans women face is leagues more prevalent and harmful than those micro-aggressions. I wouldn’t be upset by people pointing out that all trans people suffer because of terf rhetoric if it wasn’t so prevalent on every. Fucking. Discussion. Rad fems are bad because they systematically target trans women in ways that hurt jobs, physical safety, emotional health. Rad fems give afab trans people access to women’s spaces that trans women are often forbidden from. So yeah, trans exclusionary radical feminists hurt all trans people, but some of y'all aren’t at the forefront like the rest of us and therefore y'all don’t get to shoehorn your way into discussions that aren’t primarily about you. Feel free to reblog this.



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Autistip #17


During both high school and college, I found it very difficult to participate in class discussions, and was terrified of being called on in class to answer a question. My best solution was to rehearse a comment to make on the topic, or plan a question to ask. It was still anxiety-inducing to speak in front of others, and I wasn’t always able to do it, but when I did, the teacher/professor saw my engagement and didn’t call on me randomly. 



@ my fellow trans masc people … i feel like we as a group tend to … co-opt the struggles of trans feminine people ? like … when people talk about trans people as being violent/predators/etc, they’re almost definitely talking about trans girls, yk ? yes, we struggle too, but acting like we deserve to have the most important voice in these topics isn’t good. acknowledge transmisogyny, understand what cis people are actually talking about





Fields where men get paid millions to do the exact same thing as women who get paid… fewer millions, are a nice illustration of how blatant misogyny can be, but uh… I don’t actually want those women to get paid more to match the unconscionable wealth of those men.

It’s not one of my feminist goals for a few incredibly privileged women to join their incredibly privileged male peers in hoarding ridiculous amounts of wealth for status and fun while people are dying for want of food and appropriate medical care and housing.

I’m more interested in building a world where it’s unthinkable to selfishly hoard the resources others are dying for. My feminist goal is for no woman anywhere to be trapped in an abusive home because she can’t afford to leave, for no woman anywhere to be imprisoned for crimes of poverty, for no woman anywhere to slowly die from malnutrition or exposure or treatable illness.

The women who receive far more money than they need and do not distribute the excess to those who desperately need it, the women who choose status and power and luxury over solidarity and mutual aid – those women do not need or deserve my help in hoarding even more wealth. They are not my feminist sisters; they are oppressors of poor women everywhere.

The resources our society as a whole has created are being funnelled year by year into a smaller and smaller pool of hyperrich people who do nothing to counteract the injustice of their wealth. My goal is not to make that tiny pool of resource-hoarders half women.

It’s to find ways to change the society that allows and even encourages the hoarding of the tools people need to survive. My other goal in the meantime is to contribute to systems of mutual aid and engage in other forms of activism to help protect actually vulnerable women from misogyny and all other intersecting forms of oppression.

tl;dr - When men are destroying the world out of greed, feminists should be invested in stopping them, not in demanding to join them. A capitalist feminism is useless, because it will always hold more loyalty to wealth than to women.

Also I love it when the capitalist feminists are like in the media making their case like “hey what about the sisterhood why won’t you feminists who criticise me support me, we are all women?!” all like hurt and victim-like, but like… how about… you could help me out in the name of sisterhood? Maybe pay off my debts so I’d have the economic freedom and empowerment to do good shit? Paying for my school so I can get empowered to pursue my dreams? Help me get sorted in a more stable situation where I’ll be empowered to go forth and help others? Help me escape an abusive situation maybe? Oh what’s that? No? The ‘sisterhood’ only works one way? K, gotcha. 

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Hey in case you weren’t aware the US has a long history of separating Native Americans from their cultural history and punishing Native Americans who participate in their culture - there’s a long chain of boarding schools, forced moves, dress codes, and other fucked up shit that basically adds up to cultural genocide tied into the history of Native American clothing, hair, culture, and crafts. There is a lot of cultural weight tied up in hair in many Native American cultures, which is why Native Americans (particularly Native American men) have frequently been forced to cut their hair in order to assimilate to the standards of imperialist American invaders. Even now there are still stories of Native American boys being forced to cut their hair or face suspension or expulsion from school.

Native American speakers and activists have spent a lot of time discussing cultural appropriation and the damage it does - either by depicting Natives as a threat or othering them or perpetuating the myth that their cultures are extinct OR by costing Native artists and artisans money by plagiarizing their culture for sale on Etsy and it’s worthwhile to do what we can to prevent harm from coming to natives.

Hair is one of the easiest places to do this, honestly - when punks wear mohawks as a countercultural statement they’re re-enforcing the idea that this style is extreme or unprofessional or edgy, which makes it all the harder for Natives to wear their traditional styles.

There are lots of ways that you can DIY your hair to express yourself and stand out without using a traditional style that Native Americans have been and continue to be punished for wearing under imperialist rule.

So do something else - you have lots of choices, especially if you are a white punk, that aren’t available to oppressed people.

(Also basically everything I’ve said here holds true for dreds as well - black folks, for whom dreds are a natural protective style, are more harshly punished and judged in society for wearing their hair in natural locs than white folks who have to damage and mat their hair to achieve a similar style. Just don’t do it, there are easier, kinder ways to rock the fuck out.)



Lol when the post I made years ago about Halloween and Dia de los Muertos appropriation goes viral again every year and I start getting hate mail and mean replies/reposts (which I ignore happily).

Still here and still believe that if you are white you should never wear someone else’s culture as a costume. It is not honoring me or my culture, it’s not harmless, and it isn’t cute. It just reeks of colonialism and white supremacy. And if you are told it’s ok to dress as a Mexican or in DDLM themed costume by a Mexican, that does not give you a pass either. The lack of negative feelings of one person can not negate the context and harm enacted by cultural appropriation and white supremacy as a whole.

Just don’t do it.

September 30 2017

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[Image description: a design for a Grey-Bi pride flag. From top to bottom, the stripes are black, grey, pink, purple, blue, grey, and black.]

I made my own flag.

I identify as Grey-Aromantic, Grey-Asexual, and Bisexual. Explaining to people how I can be an aro/ace bi has gotten exhausting, and as much as I love the aro/ace community and the bi community, sometimes it feels like to exist in either I have to prioritize one aspect of my identity over the other.

I wanted a term and a flag that encompass my orientation in its entirety. So I’m going to start calling myself Grey-Bi. It’s a term I’ve seen around before that I really like, and think it fits me well.

The image is a Grey-Bi flag of my own design, since I couldn’t find one already in existence.

I am 100% cool with people using this flag for themselves. I’d like credit if it winds up in any wikis or FAQs, though.

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